Things like this. I'll say "I have a question." She'll say "Oh, you want sex?"
Or last week our bedroom door, that locks, was working right and if you latched it sometimes it wouldn't open. So I said "We are going to have to not latch our door until I can fix it." And she said: "Oh, that means we can't have sex until its fixed!"
A few days ago I said something about needing to do something, and she said "Oh is that what you are referring to sex as now?"
There are more, they are wide and varied. I haven't been taking notes since I mostly just blow them off. But averages about 1 a day, some days none but other days multiple.
Very interesting. Sounds like she wants to put sex back on the menu, which I might add is not unusual for a WAS to do. It doesn't mean she wants to recon, but she may very well miss the sex. Incidentally if the opportunity presents itself Michele's take on it in DR is it is OK to keep having sex with a WAS as long as you can do it without expectations. IE, if it messes with you mentally then maybe refrain, but if you can handle it mentally then go for it. If she keeps dropping these hints then next time I would just come out and ask "you sure have been hinting at sex a lot, is that something you're interested in resuming?" If she says no then just shrug your shoulders and continue what you were doing, don't make a big deal out of it one way or the other.
Originally Posted By: Steve85
How important is it that she not know I am reading the DR book? I didn't make it to the library last night but I am going straight there after work today. However, I do not see how I can read this book without her knowing. I guess I could read it in the truck at lunch time. But I usually read much more voraciously than that. I read a book recently In about 4 days. I think DR would take me less than a week if I read like I normally do. Reading it only at lunch will take me a lot longer especially since I WFH on Fridays.
You can actually read through it pretty quickly, but it's more helpful to read it many times as you'll absorb new info each time. You're supposed to be GAL'ing anyway, so maybe keep it hidden in your truck go hang out at a park and read? Or go to a coffee shop or something? You should be trying to spend some time (outside of work) away from your W.
