I don't want a divorce

[meg24]

So my marriage got into the state its in because I was neglectful wife. While I think I need 180's and GAL's I think I also need to be mindful that what I am doing doesn't come across as being more neglectful?

Don't be so hard on yourself. Your H may see it as neglect, but another man might see your past behavior differently.

This is kind of the same boat I'm in. I was worried that my H would see my current detachment as "more of the same", and in fact he kind of did. But I had to tell him the other night that he doesn't get it both ways. He can't expect me to be what he wants, while he doesn't want the MR.

Just do you. And remember, believe nothing he says and only half of what he does.