How important is it that she not know I am reading the DR book?
I would say that there are two major reasons that you dont want to share it with her.
1) If shes already pushing to get out of the relationship, then this will feel like manipulation and will only make he resist harder. She is saying that she wants out of the relationship and youre reading books on how to save the relationship...
2) Its not much of a leap to suggest that she would come running right here if she is at all curious.
