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[joejoe1]

Gisela,

Can you elaborate on your 180s? IMO your husband is still undecided. How can you 180 his complaints. Trying downing the opposite of what he told you he dislikes about you. Ambivalent, means he's undecided, so something is still keeping him there. How can you show him that he's just a man they gave you children. I know it gets hard with all the kids running around. Take the time and show him how to help you with the kids, if he don't. I'm telling you this, because this what has helped me. I just took and off hand approach to the kids, and my W resented me for it. Then I started helping out, but I also starting listening to her explain to me and he showing me how to help.

Detaching is hard, I detach while my W was still at the house. But you doing the LRT will be almost impossible. I think you need to rethink the LRT for now. Show you H a person only fool would leave. A woman only a fool would leave. Try to become his W again and not just the mother of his kids. If your H is anything like me, how probably feels like he's second fiddle to the kids and he's the last priority in your life.

How can you start to show your H and confident and positive woman, that don't harbor resentment, and has start to forgive him and move beyond the pass, living in the present and working on the future?

What are your H love languages (LL)? Are you filling his love cup?

Onward and forward