Thanks a lot. I’m learning a lot from this website. And the advice is very helpful. Like you said I’m going to keep working on myself and let the process unfolds. So far the arguments and hostility is gone. The kid is doing better at kindergarten and I feel more relaxed. I’m joining yoga and I’m working out 4 times a week. She is still ambivalent but she has become a little insecure. She was asking why I’m so short of words. I just told her that I been working on myself and I’m just taking things easy. She seems worried but we’re ok no arguments. We haven’t got really closer still but we are still affectionate to each other. Still I feel like I don’t want to just forgive to get burnt again. We have couples counseling next week one day after our wedding anniversary and I have my emotions very mixed up. But I will keep posting.