I don't know if this is manipulation/rage, but damn if it isn't ridiculous to be told that something someone else did is absolutely your fault.
Background: XW had her bariatric surgery today. A couple of weeks ago she sent me a text:
XW: My surgery is scheduled. Will you please bring D to the hospital to see me before I go in? Or let me have her the night before and Mom can take her to school once they take me back? Please, I'm begging you it's important.
Me: Let me know when. I agree it's important.
XW: The 28th this month. In two weeks exactly.
Me: I put it on the calendar. Get her after school on the 27th and your mom can drop her at school. I'll write Ms. Teacher a note and say she may be late that day.
XW: Thank you EastTN! Means a lot
Me: Don't need to thank
So... they get D last night. This afternoon, I show up at after school to get D, and no one is there--after school is empty. I call XMIL. No answer. I text XMIL I'm at school to pick up D, she's not here. Did she not come to school today? No answer. I text XW. No answer. I start to panic. One of the admin staff is working late, and asks me if I need anything. I explain that I'm there for D, and she's not here. I think she is probably with her mother and grandmother, but I DON'T KNOW. She unlocks the school, we go in, and she starts checking. Computer says D was not absent today. We check after school's records and D did not show up for after school. She calls the teacher on duty for car riders today, and D absolutely did not go home in a car. I start to panic (more). I call XFIL, asks him what he knows, and he says D is with XW and XMIL, and he thought I knew. School lady calls two other people while I'm on the phone with XFIL and we both hang up and say "She wasn't in school today." So, mystery solved, panic abated. About ten minutes later XMIL texts back "I thought they knew sorry r I would have called and told u as soon as she wakes up we will start back."
XW wakes up and texts me. Says there was a late start to surgery.
XW: And I'd like to point out that when we talked about me getting her on Tuesday the night before surgery you said it was OK that if she didn't end up going to school if that was the case and I'm sorry my surgery was behind.
Me: By the way, here's what we said (sends screenshots of conversation from two weeks ago)
Me: You had me show up at school knowing she wasn't going to be there. I got to panic. Because they said she WAS there. But didn't go to after school. And didn't get picked up from car riders.
XW: What You could've called or text but no you didn't and you waited to you got there and I can't believe the school had her down when she wasn't there that's something wrong with that
XW: And I didn't have you show up for nothing I was OU least you could've done was called I couldn't do anything while I was in the back
Me: I did call. And text. Your phone and your mother's phone. She got back to me half an hour later.
XW: They probably with the doctor?! I don't know I wasn't there this is not my fault so you can stop acting the way you are the least I need is for you to be showing your ass right now. Just another struck towards me because I know how you are and your damn lawyer anything and everything to try to make me look bad. well that isn't going to work this time I had surgery she's here it's not my fault the school had her down for coming in when she was definitely not there maybe they need to get their [censored] together
Me: XW, you had D. I was supposed to pick her up at school. If you weren't bringing her to school you need to TELL ME. Don't try to make this out a my fault. You absolutely knew she was not going to be there when I went to pick her up. You CAN'T make this one come out any other way. No misunderstanding.
XW: You're an ass EastTN. Plain and simple I went back to the waiting room is are you driving getting hooked up at 10 o'clock, I didn't have my surgery until afternoon I didn't have my phone the entire I was waiting to get out and see her then Mom bringing her to school Bc that's what I told Mom. After I get to see her you can bring her to school. She probably didn't think anything since it was late when they got to me. Sorry things didn't go as planned not my fault. Not please stop with your blaming me for something out of my control
