As I climbed into bed I asked what his timeline was for moving, so I can mentally prepare myself, as I don't think I can handle it.
When you say you have to mentally prepare and you don't think you can handle it you're telling him:
1) That you can't live without him, and will therefore sit on the shelf patiently waiting for him to change his mind which gives him all the power in the relationship
2) That he's responsible for how you're feeling, which he'll resent you for because it makes him feel guilty. This guilt blanket will make him want to avoid and get away from you so he stops being reminded of the impact he's causing. This is what "act as if" and "GAL" are all about.
How you want to handle this is to be smiles, enjoy your life and say "enjoy moving out! Let me know when your stuff will be gone" and move on.
Originally Posted By: meg24
Round and round. We get around to the ILYBNILWY. I boldly said that the in love feeling is the beginning high that doesn't last, everyone pretty much knows that, but it turns in to deeper love, the love he keeps telling me he has for me (but not in love with me). He says no, In love should last forever.
Hopefully you've learned from this and will not engage in another R talk ever again. That's not just "don't start an R talk yourself" that's "don't participate in one at all, even if he starts one"
Meg this is super hard and requires a ton of discipline. The sooner you can get him out the easier things will be for you, believe me. You should be encouraging him to go at this point, then make him miss you and appear happy!
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
