Originally Posted By: Accuray

My suggestion would really be to take the spotlight off of W and focus on you. The challenge is that due to your current situation, trying to correct the sins of the past by pursuing her will make things worse versus better because she has a roadblock up that will prevent her from being able to receive.



The thing is, I'm NOT pursuing. At all. The most that could be considered pursuit is asking how her day was. I will engage in conversation when she starts it, but I let her do most of the talking.



Originally Posted By: Accuray
If you use that time to address her complaints in your own life, it will be noticed, but you have to do it *for you* and not peacock it in front of her or she won't believe it.



I'm not peacocking anything. I go about my business and so does she.


Originally Posted By: Accuray
She complained you didn't plan enough activities far enough in advance? Start planning things for you and the kids to do, and plan it in advance. She'll notice.



She complained I didn't do enough with her. I complained that she didn't give me enough notice to plan to participate.


Originally Posted By: Accuray
It sounds like your analysis of her complaints is fundamentally a "Five Love Languages" issue so I definitely recommend getting that book and reading it.



I will look for it.


M: 25 T:33
Me: 48 W: 49
S24, D21, D18, D15, S8 All living at home while going to school
A confirmed: 12-25-17
EA Definite PA Probable