I said ok I have no contact until she either ends the affair and decides she wants to work on the marriage, or until we reach 2 weeks when its over from my side if A is not ended. At first I felt this was pretty reasonable and actually just realized after agreeing that potential OM scenario. Also thought at first I don’t want decision so that is ‘pushed’, but definitely not OM around either... think changing boundaries is even weaker or what do y think?
