Interesting piece of information. I'm doing a leadership training at work related to my promotion. They have is the TKI conflict management assessment. I'm at 93% compete and 6% avoiding.
In short i tend to confront conflict head on. This was eye opeing in relation to DBing.
That's the point isn't it? Conflict? Seeing an R and a disagreement as conflict?
It's not I my nature to let conflict linger without a resolution. DBing is all Abbott leaving the conflict alone and moving on.
That isn't DB at all. It isn't about avoiding conflict or ignoring it. It is how you deal with disagreement and how you argue. Do you blame, do you threaten, are you intimidating, do you accept the other has a right to their view even if different? What do you do?
Have you heard of the man who only has a hammer? He sees every problem as a nail. So beware the man who has only has a screw driver!
So this is helpful in terms of i am struggling.
not surprised if every disagreement or opposite view is "conflict" to be tackled with aggression.
And maybe this info can lead me to start to change.
I think you mean shift. There is nothing wrong with tackling issues directly, see my previous post. It is how you do it. And recognising disagreement is not conflict. Respecting and validating others in the process. Whereas NMMNG is passive aggressive, Mr conflict is just plain nasty aggressive if everything is conflict.
Just saying
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DB is not at all about avoiding conflict. It's how you handle it.
