Hi. Would like to open a new thread for people to recommend books on communication techniques that helped them the most.
Windy, I highly recommend "The Five Love Languages", it delves deeply into how people tend to close themselves off and "wait" for their spouse to come to them and fill their needs rather than trying to be proactive and fill their partner's needs first. Often when we fill our partner's "love tank" then they in turn WANT to fill ours without being prodded about it.
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I am a wife who walked away, although it was not sudden or surprising. I am thinking of giving my marriage one last chance, but some things need to be resolved and talked about before I can move on to R.
Please check into Retrouvaille, it is tailored exactly for couples like you two. It is basically a weekend-long workshop that teaches you communication skills. The teachers are all couples that have overcome incredible obstacles and stayed together, and all went through the program themselves and saved their marriages. In my case it didn't save my M because my XW was too far checked out, but if you are serious about giving your M one last go then I think you'll find Retrou extremely helpful.
The program is hosted by the Catholic Church, but you don't have to be Catholic (I'm not) or even religious. There is some praying as part of it but religion is definitely not the focus of it. Don't expect to find out too much about it online, they are intentionally secretive about it as they want you to go in with an open mind and not develop any preconceived notions about it.
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Is there a book that talks about how to draw people like my husband out and keep them talking?
The challenge is you can't really make him communicate. But believe me, Retrouvaille will. It will really open his eyes.
