And it seems to be the running theme here, men don't really listen and take their wives seriously.
Windy - Thank you for your well thought out post. There is a lot of very interesting thoughts.
The only point I want to address specifically is this one. At least for me, it was never that I didnt listen. But the changes were never organic - I could never understand the basis, and so I only would do them as long as my XW was pushing for them.
It was more that I didnt know HOW to listen than that I DIDNT listen. It was less a conscious decision I was making a more a lack of the necessary tools to be able to actually do the things being asked of me.
Im not using that as an excuse - in the end, it is just as much of a failure. My point is more that I needed something I didnt know that I was missing!
