Joseph... I get what you're saying, but my W isn't holding D over my head. She has said several times she doesn't want a divorce. In my case, she's twisting my words and actions around and telling me that I want a divorce. Taking the advice from others, I'm no longer going to say anything about it...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019