But why the urge to discuss the MR comes on so strong or what triggers it i don't understand.
It's called the "illusion of action". You feel you have to do something, prove yourself, convince her to see things your way.
It's based on your fear of losing her. You are hoping that she says something that gives you hope which will temporarily stop the pain. The relationship talk rarely ever goes the way you want it to and then you just feel more pain. Then you push and pursue more to try to stop the pain. It's a fuched up cycle.
