In limbo with WW on antidepressants

[SteveLW]

I believe temperature taking from the LBS perspective is trying to gauge where the relationship stands. I have done this multiple times since my BD.

The last time was last Wednesday morning, as documented in my last thread. I even did it in a manipulative way by telling my wife that I noticed when she talked it about staying it was in terms of level of sadness, and leaving was discussed in terms of level of excitement. (Her response was that as we had frivolous fun in our MR, she felt less sadness in staying, and less excitement in leaving.

See what I did there? I got a temperature check without coming out and saying "where does our MR stand?" Terrible. Awful. Not something I am proud of.

So yes, since then I've been compelled at times to say "hey, how are we doing?" Usually not in those terms though. Usually in a sneaky, gauging way.

Obviously this is pursuit. "HEY! How am I doing in getting you to want to stay?" It is bad, and not helpful for detachment. And should be avoided at all costs.

So I am working on it. When I get the urge I try to distract myself. I try to remind myself that I can't believe what she tells anyway. Etc.