As for my sitch everything has been slowed down and W is doing normal things again asking me questions about my day and is being very friendly. She has been cleaning the house cooking dinners and the such. I do not think this is anything and she has not indicated that she wants to R at all but she is much more pleasant.
Read my lips. It is called manipulation!
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W has been told by her L that the MH has to be sold and she is not happy about that, but I will not waiver on this at all.
Now do get why she is she is being nice, cooking and cleaning? It's called manipulation.
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W still wants our D to remain a secret, this is just crazy to me. I really think she is in need of some real counseling for herself.
Do you think I should tell anyone?
Oh for heaven's sake, man! No, I don't suppose you "get it", yet.
Look, if she told you she wanted to bring in a ship load of sailors and do them in front of you.......but didn't want anyone else to know about it........would you go along with what she wanted? I hope not!! Well, getting a secret divorce makes about as much sense!
Have you ever used the "no" word when speaking to your WW? You sound like a man that has been dominated by his WW so long that he can't think for himself. Is this the case? Have you lost all sense of sanity? Is that why you are actually asking us if you should tell anyone?
Who gets a divorce and continues living together as if nothing has happened? Insane wayward wives, are the only ones I know would even suggest it. Yes, tell everyone......and start with telling her first. "No, we are not getting a crazy secret divorce"! "Yes, everyone is going to know we are divorced...and why"!
You seriously need to take your b@lls out of her purse and start acting like a man, instead a "yes dear" whipped pup.
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W just recently chenged her FB status from M to no relationship to show. I think this is a clear sign that she is looking for someone new. She also unfriended my mother. She has been very friendly like I have stated before but I do not think there is anything to it.
Go back and read my lips again.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Who gets a divorce and continues living together as if nothing has happened? Insane wayward wives, are the only ones I know would even suggest it.
Sorry for a little hijack. Sandi, does this include thinking that everything will remain as usual besides R ending. Like we'll be a happy family after the D including main family and in-laws and such.
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Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
I also believe you can talk to whomever you want about this as you want. As you need, and the stance is "I will not lie about this or about the reasons".
My, $0.02, I agree with this. Why are you trying to hide her secret?
Me 51, Wife 44; Married 4; Together 10; HSD20, XWSD13, XWSS14, XWSS17 Kids Together D4, D1.52 W Moves Out: 03/16/17 W Files : 03/17/17 D Final: 10/23/17
