Hi Blu....I am glad you returned, your writing and insight you provide others is priceless. I was happy to read about you and your H, you deserve it!
I always thought I did a good job with DBing however my W never moved in my direction. She never once showed an interest in what I was doing, when she left she was done. I battle periods of sadness more about what could have been vs what was lost and what my children won't get to experience. With that said I feel good with who I am, what I have to offer, I am a proud father of two amazing little girls and I know my story is not over.
I appreciate your kind words and positive re-enforcement. It means a lot!
H - I am going to need to do the same and hopefully she will work with me on it. I do know my W wants cash on hand to pay off the vehicle she is getting and to pay off her portion of debt. I can stand to refi a portion of the equity just not all of it so if she will agree to only take 1/2 of her portion I am willing to make up for it out of my 401.
My fingers are crossed......if nothing else maybe my loving detachment and model DBing efforts will pay off in the D settlement
