Former WH, now LBS Please Help, close to Give Up

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How do you know this, did you overhear a conversation, or were you snooping and reading her texts/ emails with GF? I'm trying to figure out if this is something she is doing in front of you which would clearly be unacceptable and would demand some kind of response from you (in my opinion anyway) or if you are reading her texts in which case you may be reading things into it ("talking about him like a school girl").

There is not such a disrespect in front of me, i am trying to shut down any attempt to disrespect in front of me.
I have listened some conversations and read texts, of course i have "reading things into it".

With whom, OM or GF? If you are going to lay out a boundary it needs to have consequences. What are your consequences?

NC with OM, my WW is not aware that i know what she talk to her GF. In general my WW lie or/and trickle trout to every one around her, just to appear cool girl. She obviously use OM2 attentions, as opportunity to look cool and free woman to the girl around her.

I could not see any other consequences instead leaving her and the kids. Leaving like in house separation is something that i cannot handle well, i have go back to polite and attentive person, even more i do not want to behave cold in front of the kids.

Just to say. At the moment my WW is fall in love to OM2. They do not have SEX, kiss or other physical thinks. There is not future planes of them to be together or something like that. There is not " i love you", occasionally some emoticons with kisses or harts.
She pursuing OM2 very hard, to write to her, to come for coffee, to talk to her. OM2 i younger 12 years. It is look like he use his free/boring time to contact her.
She do not talk with me about him.

I am preparing to leave, when /if she meet him like a date (go for dinner/lunch).
I am concern how this will affect the kids, i think mentally i will handle living her a go foreword with my life if she not agree NC and behave like married woman in future. If i leave she will not handle herself and the kids financially.

Oder option about consequent is to cut her down, when she start speaking about future investment that she want "us" to do (buy new flat and pay for it in next 4 years)
yhenks