Thank you for providing perspective from another angle and great that you also shared your own experience!
My W has not been overly mean to me during this process. She has told to everyone that we separated since we need to find out if we still could love each other. There is lot of bitterness and anger for sure, but still until recently I was hopeful. We know what caused our problems and they donīt exist anymore. Itīs about finding this emotional bond again trust again. With the therapy focused in that together with DBing I was hopeful.
But seems I react very strongly to this possible A. I really want to confront her and making a stand. BUT, I donīt know what that stand would be. One way would be that Iīm not going to the MC if you do not stop, but it feels that it could work, and we got the best therapist in our country who is usually very busy. Another thing could be financial, I could stop paying rent of "nesting" apartment and ask for her to find her own. OR, I could explain that I will go totally dark except the MC sessions and things that concern the kids and finance.
