Bye bye limbo -- it's time for a change

[mleigh4]

Thank you everyone. My work family agrees, no way! H needs to deal with his mom! It is pretty comical when you think about it. I will say nothing. If she brings it up, I will be honest....I am about to D your son, it's just not a good time! Lol

So great news! We had our taxes done tonight. She ran the different scenarios for us, and I insisted, I want them done separately as this is how it will be done from now on. I came out with a huge refund. H was going to owe, but she worked some magic and he just squeaked out even. H had gone and changed his withholdings at BD, and we have been having to pay ever since. Nothing huge, but a big change from previous years of getting refunds. My pleas to change his withholdings back went on deaf ears. Finally, he was told by an expert tonight that his withholdings are not correct for what he makes. And I am getting my money back instead of it going towards taxes HE owes. Woohoo!!

So the poor tax lady kept clarifying that we are married but don't live together. For 4 years. She straight up told us, you need to do something. Especially for tax purposes, you both will be better off. I said I know, someone needs to do something. H looked at me and said, you said you were going to file. I looked him back and said, WE are going to file through mediation. He just shook his head and said, you said you were going to file. I really can't tell if we are just that out of sync with continuous misunderstandings or if he is really that dumb? Or just playing dumb? Either way, there is my answer, the ball remains in my court.

Anyhow, one thing at a time. So happy the taxes are done and I am now done with his part of them. He is now on his own.

He also passed on taking dog tonight, and has done that a couple of other times. During the trip, he barely helped with her. He told me he thinks she is going senile! She is 6! So I guess he is now pulling away from that responsibility as she gets older. That man has no loyalty in him! That's ok though, I will take care of her until the end.

You know, I sat next to him tonight and I just feel so yucky. I feel yucky around him. I see myself back then for some reason. I noticed this on our trip too. I see myself through his eyes, and it's the old me. He doesn't see me any different and I feel like the old me around him. As soon as I get away, I feel myself again. It's hard to explain? I'm not blaming that on him, It may be my own issues....I just don't like who I am around him. Maybe it's everything that has happened, but I am just not my best with him.

Have a good night
M