I didn't know whether to start a new thread or try to continue posting here.
Husband has been trying to handle too many things on this end to say we are physically separated. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the help. I will wash my car but I don't like lawn care, plumbing, changing oil, etc. I am use to my husband taking care of us on that front.
At times he says things like I’m doing more over here than over where I stay. He says this as a joke I believe because he is always smiling. But it kind of bothers me because we are separated. So I had previously mentioned I plan to start getting help with some things like lawn care because the season is getting ready to start. And other things as money permits.
Then, all of a sudden, we had a plumbing issue this week. He took care of the problem. But on the second day of working on it, he was saying how I can always count on him. I said yes, but it does not feel right and we are not together. He then goes I don’t want another man working on my house or cutting my yard. He goes, I don’t care if we get a divorce down the line he better buy you a house.
Needless, to say that went sideways. I told him he could not dictate especially if divorced. I told him the courts would make that decision for us both in regards to the home. And that he was the one that needed to make a decision whether he wants to be in with the changes I’ve asked for or be out.
He texted me later saying I am trying to force him to make a decision, force him to come home, and was trying to control him.
I just don’t understand. He is the one that keeps telling us he wants to come home. Then it is we get along better in two separate places. Then it is I am pressuring him. Then it is he wants to come home but not sure he is ready.
So today he got all the parts taken care of with the plumbing and kept trying to make conversation. I just was not up to it and gave short responses and didn’t try to make conversation of my own.
I'm just wondering what I can do better or say better.
