Your letter about the awards was so touching I thought "geez, I'd give anything to have a H who craved quality time with our children. you are a gem.
I wish for you what you wish for yourself!
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I almost considered converting just to meet a guy like you! Okay that might be pushing it but - you are one of the good ones and I think you will meet a lovely valuable woman.
I have! We have been dating for 8 months. I actually proposed to her this past weekend. She said yes. No ring yet. We are looking at a home. We will be a large blended family. The two families just spent the weekend together. I can't believe how things have evolved. Life is insane! I can't say I don't have any reservations, just because of my past experience with XW, but wife-to-be, we'll call her WTB, seems to be interested in working hard at a relationship. We share the same values. I am sure there will be bumps and meddling from XW, but we will handle them together. I worry a bit about S6. He is very attached to his M and she is not doing anything to foster independence in him.
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I am 11 months from filing and reeling) . Some health issues prevented me from taking in the events (I had seizures and new medication really interfered with my short term memory. I'm fine now! but the early months are a fog.
Will stop by your thread next. I am glad you are doing better.
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As I begin to enter the dating world, I live in my old stomping grounds now and so there are a few high school guys I know who are interested. I'm very comfortable with one and for now, doing things together is enough for me. I'm making a list of "must haves" and "must NOT have" and the list was to be only one page...
I like that idea. Have you made your list yet? I would love to see it. I will ask you at your thread too.
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I'm sorry you felt "all alone" at the event. What happened to you was grossly unfair
Things are much easier when I remove my ago from the equation. Sometimes easier said than done.
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Your w, like my stb x, literally cannot see and admit they created a lot of wreckage heaped upon the people who loved them most.
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they cannot see the reality b/c they're not self aware enough to grasp it - OR they CANNOT face it b/c it's too damn devastating.
I think it pervades everything they do and dictates a lot of their actions. XW must accuse me to make herself feel better. It is a sorry existence. I don't know if she is with OM, and most days I no longer care. But I am starting to feel sorry for her because she F---ed her life up so badly. I can't see her ever achieving the happiness she had when we were married.
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I think the Karma is when they actually MISS us, and what we had; --- which they'll never have again.
Bingo.
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More later on how not to become a victim of parental alienation
I think I have gotten the hang of it for the most part. I definitely have to work on communication with her.
