Well.... I had the house appraisal done today so I should find out tomorrow what it's worth and how much I will need to give my W. My fear is that I won't be able to afford to stay in the house. I don't feel sad being here and personally would rather stay although I know in the future, in my next R, whoever I meet is probably not going to want to live in the same house that my W did.

I guess the biggest reason I want to stay is for my kids. I feel like as they have gone through these changes over the past year they have always had this as their home. In some ways I feel like me being in the house has helped them with getting through this. If I sell it I will be moving to an apartment as well which for me is not the end of the world but then I think about my girls, not having the neighborhood kids to play with and going from my apt to my W's every other week.

I hate it for them....Am I projecting? Does anyone have a read on this?


Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018