WW, A ended, but struggling to reconnect (My 11th)

[DonH]

Ya know, if I were you, I'd been checking out the VS catalog for a pair of those blue PJs. It's not overly sexual and will need the correct timing - like a getaway weekend - but I can't help but think it might be a good idea that Sandy came up with there. Getting something similar to back when you first started dating might be good too.

It sure seems like your W is giving you ideas all over the place. Are you both hearing them and also willing to act? Again, timing is a must but she's throwing them out to you for a reason - especially when she does it multiple times. A drink across the bar, some 50 shades-esq moves. The right timing along with light and playful is the ticket.

Also, the more and more you tell us, the more it all makes sense - like the wedding ring thing. Checking out, little to no sex, her having to do lawn work and take the lead with the kids. Add it all up and you really have to ask why not versus why she has done some of the things she has. It never excuses having OM but it really seems to make a lot of sense why you are in the position you are in after learning more and her reactions to it.

Slow and steady. It's still going to be a long road back home but you are clearly piecing!