Wendy, I appreciate your post. Your post seems like something my wife could write. But a couple of observations.
You talk about what you need from your husband but you don't articulate it. Is that what you did in your marriage too? I am struggling with this with my wife. "I've tried and tried over the last 19 years, and nothing has changed." Never in 19 years did she sit me down and articulate what she needs from me. I got passive-aggressive and vague hints as to what her needs from me are. I think WW often think they have been clear as to what needed to change, but very few have actually articulated it in a clear manner.
Second, where there is a will there is a way. I know my wife is struggling with her "job search" as well. Of course for her spending 5-7 hours a day on a karaoke singing app has taken preference (cake eating). Her excuse is that she wants to find a work from home position. Good luck with that. If you think having a huge hole in your resume (and hers is 14 years) try having that AND trying to find a company that says "oh and you can stay home and we'll pay you!" Probably not happening. I have a great reputation at work and they allow me to WFH every Friday. Even with my reputation I can't imagine going to my boss and saying, I'd like to work from home everyday.
So while I appreciate your perspective I have to call hogwash on why you are still there, why you haven't filed, etc. Everyone can come up with excuses. You need to either follow through, or commit for the long-haul. How long have you been in this state of limbo?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
