In limbo with WW on antidepressants

[sandi2]

I just read on another thread where you ordered NMMNG. That's great! I hope you read it ASAP.

Anyway, I may have mentioned that I recently got rated top performer at work, and simultaneously got promoted. This resulted in extra bonus money and two big raises back-to-back

Congratulations!

The result is that she started looking for houses again. IN fact, the 3 of us went to two open houses yesterday. Obviously I am trying to stay even keeled related to this. And I will be glad to take feedback on what you think this might mean.

It's hard to tell at this point. How much house hunting might distract her from the singing app is anyone's guess. As for giving up on the search for a new house being what tipped the scales toward her WW mode........IDK.

You initially stated there had been intimacy problems for years. She has been on anti-depressant meds for a long time, which hasn't really resolved any problems. She had too much time on her hands and was bored after D went back to school. So then she gets into Internet dating sites and other apps, and she's in an EA. Would a new house be enough distraction to get her away from the apps and the OM? IDK, but I know it would be a very pricey chance. Eventually, the thrill of decorating a new house would wear off.......and then I think the old issues would surface again, b/c a new house is not the source of the M's intimacy problems. If you study why women don't want to be intimate with their H, and you set about in changing that dynamic.......both of you will find happiness. It will be much cheaper than purchasing a new house.

If there is a logical reason the two of you need to sell your current house (for example, if the current house is old and costing a fortune in maintenance) and purchasing a better house is smart business......then go from that angle. But don't go into deeper debt on a chance that this is the winning ticket that will buy happiness for your W.

Take Another Stander's post very seriously.