Addicts/alcoholics are a real mess and even in recovery as my XH was sober for 20 years--unless they put real effort/change /therapy into their recovery.. R willany active addict/alcoholic will be very difficult/impossible
Great you got support with Alanon..great program and people
I will ignore anything your H says..they have a stake in us staying sick...so your recovery may scare him as he knows he is not making any effort for healing himself
Alcoholics cant become social drinkers ever-- so he is just lying to himself..He may control it for a few weeks or months but the disease is real, alive and present once he takes the first drink--
You are doing well so continue with your program Be there for D most important to just listen to her right now I would sit on edge of bed in D room as a preteen and just listen they open up and I would Nod and not say much just listen
That helped my D get through this Today she is 22..graduating College in may smart, kind and well adjusted
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