Google gaslighting and addiction.(thats what it sounds like hes doing with the meditation comments to daughtet) Thats what i am working on understanding and you can find me in the surviving divorce forum.
I came on here in 2015 as julieh with absolutely no clue my ex was a high functioning addict. I thought affair, mlc, depression,ocd. Then i found bank statements going back 3 years showing withdrawals in bad neighborhoods of 800 per week in addition to 100 almost everyday. I also found credit card statements going back 5 year showing 300 dollars per month from 3 different liquor stores.
The dysfunctionality of our relationship crept up on me...in the beginning i felt guilty for being mad amd resentful all the time and now i know why (although i still doubt it cause he is so high functioning)
He painted this pic to his family, coworkers, our marriage counselor about how miserable our marriage was. How negative and cynical I was. How i did not accept him for who he was. Called me verbally abusive.
Now i am realizing i was complaining about things that made no sense...sleeping till 2, constantly disappearing, not saving or having money when he worked as a professional. And how it was all twisted and deflected.
I dont think addicts are really capable of real love. Im trying to learn more.
