Why is it when I try to leave him alone he gets more angry???
Why does he constantly look over my shoulder and ask what I'm doing but I'm not allowed to inquire what he is doing???
Because he's a bit of a 6YO throwing a temper tantrum. You do realize that the TV fight wasn't really about the TV, right? While there probably was some truth to his feelings (very 6YO-like too!), H was going to have a fight with you one way or another. H didn't like the GAL stuff.
I think a better strategy for you when you come back is not to pursue. You asked about tasting wine. You asked about watching TV together. Right now, you want the message to be "I'm giving you the time and space you need." Neither of those do that.
I agree with Mach and Cat that your H still cares about you. I also think H is feeling sorry for himself and may want you to be miserable too. That's just a game you don't want to play. Continue to beat the "I heard what you said about being alone and I'm <whatever you are doing> to give you the time and space you need." drum. And the <whatever you are doing> includes reading in a different room, or anything else that isn't trying to get him to drink wine and watch TV with you!
If H spews anger at you for doing these things, calmly say "H, I'm confused. If there is something else you need, please tell me."
And if H says he doesn't know, that's ok. Tell H that's why you are giving him time and space.
And if H says he needs something totally unreasonable, tell H you will need to think about it.
Finally, comments like this "he did say - you know you go out and have this meet up group just further proves I have nothing in this town for me" are more 6YO tantrums. Just ignore them for now. Don't engage.
