Came home after GAL last night. Did ask H if he wanted to try some of the wine we bought. He said very quietly - sure.
He was watching something on tv and I asked if there was something we could both watch. He got annoyed and I said nevermind. Then he called me back in and handed the remote to me. When I tried to find something we could both watch he just shut down so I let it go.
He had some wine. I had some wine but it was cold. TV sat blank. He ended up showering and going to bed.
He got up this am and did dishes while I laid in bed. When I got up he was clearly angry. He apparently went to bed angry. When I inquired why he was feeling that way he said I was being controlling when I came in to ask if we could watch something together on tv. I am supposed to just sit and watch what he is watching already. He said if he comes in and sits with me he just watches what I am already watching. He is so tired of having to tell me that.
I did say that if I asked something he did not want he could simply say NO. He then said he that I would be hurt and he was tired of that as well. He is so tired of how many times he has to tell me this. I tried to validate his feelings and leave it at that.
I will be sitting at the computer for 5 min and he will come in to look over my shoulder... "what are you doing?". I am not allowed to ask him any questions, but he constantly asks me questions.
He did say - you know you go out and have this meet up group just further proves I have nothing in this town for me (he commutes 1hr from my town to the town he grew up in and works in). Its like I'm going out and GAL and its like its further pushing him out the door because he is lonely here too. I just said I don't have any friends in this town either. My bff's live 5hr from here. I went out last night and met 3 new people and had interesting conversation and learned little odd facts.
I mention to my husband about a winery near by that I had no idea. He said - I won't go. This is the man who just 48hr earlier spent time and money in a winery booth with me and it was so very nice.
He later said is this where you are having group again. I said no. I hoped you would go but if you don't I will go alone. I said they have live music on Wednesdays. He said he has plans on Wednesday - which I know but not EVERY Wednesday.
Why does he go to bed so angry???
Why is it when I try to leave him alone he gets more angry???
Why does he constantly look over my shoulder and ask what I'm doing but I'm not allowed to inquire what he is doing???
I'm just packing a bag and leaving for the day. Need out of this house.
