Me and our 4 children pretzel ourselves for a year a d a half before hearing these words. I sware nothing we could do to make him happy would ever be good enough. Worst.... we were blamed for this. Our self-esteem, seld confidence and self worth was destroyed to piece because we could not make him happy.. don' t make the sane mistake. Please.. for your sake and the sake if your children.
If your W chose the marriage, she will make her changes and you will have no doubt because she will work WITH YOU. Your feelings will matter.She will invest herself and your goals will be the same.
