Saying ILY...

[mtb1981]

Today she called me and said she was on her way to visit her grandma and wanted to come by and see the kids and get ready for work when she was done there or she might just get ready for work at her grandma's and then come by to see the kids. I told her that was fine. I took the kids to church at 4:00, and she called as we were sitting down. She kept calling, so I sent her a quick text saying we were at church and then turned my phone off. When we got back to the car after church, I had 2 missed texts. "Can I go by the house to get ready for work and wait for the kids?" and then the 2nd 45 minutes later "Thanks" (which was sarcastic bevause she was mad I didn't respond to the first text. But I'm not one to be texting during church. When we got home at 5:00, I sent her a text saying we were home.

About 5:45 she came in and changed clothes and was gone 20 minutes later. During this time she told me she wanted the spare key to the van. I told her I would sign the title over to her and she could have it. That she needed to get the title transferred and get it insured. I didn't see any point for me paying for her insurance and she could have the van. Then she told me I should go ahead and file for divorce when I talked to the L next week. That I was doing everything I could to remove her from my life so I might as well. I asked her if that's what she really wanted me to do, and she said no. That she thought we were on the same page last night when she said she wanted to go to MC. But everything I was doing was in the direction of getting a divorce so I might as well. I informed her again that I did not want a D, but if she wanted me to file, I would discuss it with the L next week. She again said she did not want a D. Keep in my mind this whole time she is mad as hell...

Looking back, I should have just given her the key and kept my mouth shut. But at the same time, if she wanted the key back, is moving out, and wanting to be on her own, I might as well just sign the van title over to her...