Saying ILY...

[mtb1981]

Last night, W ended up showing up at the house at about 10:30 asking why I hadn't answered my phone. I told her I didn't have anything I needed to say. She said she was calling because she wanted to see the kids. I told her all she had to do was text me saying she wanted to see the kids, but she didn't. Instead she just sent several sarcastic snarky texts about me not answering my phone...

She was all worked up and asked when we were getting our taxes done because she needed money. I told her I was still waiting on some tax papers and that I wanted to talk to a lawyer so I knew what my rights were. Of course that pissed her off. "So we're getting divorced? Is that it?" I told her again that I didn't want a divorce, but that I had a right to be able to talk to a L to know what my rights were...

We talked for about an hour or so. She's mad because I took the house key. She's mad because "a month goes by and now you're trying to be such a great person". She's mad because of all the stuff from the past, and even though I apologized and she knows I'm sorry, "I act or want to pretend like it never happened". I told her that I was sorry for doing those things, and I'll never forget them, but I have forgiven myself for those things, and I'm not going to hold onto them. She's mad because I want to talk to a lawyer, and even asked if she could go with me to talk to one. She's mad because she thinks I'm trying to make things difficult and this is some sort of game to me. She said she was trying to make things easy and I want to make it messy. I told her it was already a mess. That no matter what we do, it's not going to be easy. Convo ended with her saying that she was going to be signing a lease this week and would be moved out next weekend, but still wanted to go to MC once she got into her new place...