Not sure what to do. . .can anyone help?

[mbe76]

This is getting so difficult. I spoke with her about the boundary of not criticising or disrespecting me in front of the children and I said that "while we are still married and living under the same roof as Husband and Wife I will not accept you criticising me or namecalling me or showing any other lack of respect in front of the children" she then said that I had been showing her a lack of respect for all of our marriage" basically getting angry at me. She then said that "I am treating her like a POS and I can't go on like this" and I said that I am not criticising or showing you direspect now so I expect the same" she then said that I am treating her like a doormat and I cant live like this" to which I said "I cannot control you or your reaction, but a I refuse to be take unfair criticism" she them said I was pushing her away"

I should also point out she is ill atm with a chest infection and is laid up in bed, so it may be best to hold off for a while....?