I hear what you are saying.. I heard the same things.
Care to tell me where you were when she needed you the most? May i ask where or who she went to when she needed someone? Did you not need her aswell?
The: " what is wrong with you"? What was wrong with her?
Just like her, you knew something was wrong but did not know how to make it better.
I am sorry to say but by the time you heard those words, the storm inside of her was already brewing. Living the marriage was and is absolutely not the solution. If it was, she would be longg gone..
Do you understand what i mean? This is my view of this mess and 9 years after my bomb drop, i have not been proven otherwise. My ex find the stupidest excuses to make contact and rewards me with his cash.
This is why you need to do what is right for YOU because you need to be able to live with your decisions and choices.
xox