I agree KitCat, the behavior is all over the place. H doesn't know what he wants. I personally think he's struggling with issues from childhood and thinks that the issues are strictly from our marriage. My IC, and a few people in my support circle, who are trying to remain unbiased, whom all know both of us very well, all say that his anger from his unmeet needs from me isn't just because of me, they all so it's partially from unmet needs from childhood, manifesting in marriage. If that makes any sense.
Anyway, the pain is still intense, but the crying is getting easier to manage. I told him I won't read his mind anymore, if he wants something, he has to say it, in specifics, not just generalizing.
Originally Posted By: artista
he is playing games with you... very immature... he pretty much sums it up himself--he will likely find fault with everything you do... when he got up to go outside, you should have just let him go... in my opinion, he is being cruel to you... testing you... you cannot win... he knows you don't want to lose him, and he is putting everything on you... even the responsibility of reading his mind... and you keep going for it... you believe that what you did in your marriage was so horrible that you deserve to be treated this way... i hope you are able to come out of that mind set soon...
H is moving out next weekend. I don't know if I want to be here, but it may help me detach. I am really trying to take Artista's words to heart. I haven't been a horrible wife. In H's own words (or, at least he tells me that he tells others), he can't say anything bad about me as I haven't done anything wrong.
Holy cow this whole thing is incredibly hard. One day at a time.
