WW, wlc, Waw or What?

[KGuy]

The assigned date was in a daddy-week. Less than one hour later I received a new message "You have cancelled the appointment and have been re-scheduled for "a date three weeks later" . Obviously it was XW who had called them and re-scheduled for a date in her kids week. Without discussing with me.

I didn't discuss with her, but just assumed she would pick one as she did last year - and she also just picked one of the assigned dates for D10's parent-teacher meeting).
If you look one or two posts up, you'll see how she transferred the kids savings to a new bank without consulting me first. So this seems to be an ongoing theme.

I know its a late reply, but whatever you do for those two issues above , don't do this:

I didn't react or respond.

she transferred the kids savings to a new bank without consulting me first. So this seems to be an ongoing theme.

I would't worry about this really, but i think you already dealt with it in your post above

She is either provoking me on purpuse or simply dysfunctional...

Any input on how to deal with this issue?

When the (X)W and I appeared we were going into the courts to solve the divorce, i quickly found out from my Lawyer what parameters they use to determine the custodial parent. If primary custody is to be given by the court, the parent who usually gets it is the one who brings the kids to the doctor, sets up and drives the daycare decision, etc. So, i ensured that although early on she had taken on those duties when we had worked it out where she was home the 1st year of the 4 y/os life, i tried to at least have equal decisions or parental actions being made/done by me. It could be that she is getting instruction to gather evidence that she is doing some of the parenting issues as well, challenging the custody you think will go to you up in the air.

I wouldn't just do nothing. Take charge and if you want her to do some of these things, then send an email when you first get these notifications and say that you will set something up but give her the option to make it on her time if she wants it. That way she can't just say she did it because you wouldn't. Make sense?

None of the options keep the road home paved and smooth. But much more of this behaviour and there won't be a road home at all...

I know what you mean. When it came to the kids, i was very confrontational and tried to ensure i was on as best playing field that i could be for possibly getting custody if we had gone to court. I definitely left a gravel road back in that respect. Still, i wasn't going to be bullied into a custody situation where i was a minor parental role in my kids lives which i would regret more i think. After we mediated where i got a good arrangement (although not a good 50/50 arrangement like you), I stopped the battle and went back to normal in hopes of paving the road.