H moved in while we were dating. He came to my house with two books - Fireproof and His Needs/Her Needs How to Affair Proof Your Marriage. I assumed left over from his first marriage. I read the latter book and H before we were married read it right after me.
Its funny how much we were aware of each other's needs and took such proactive steps... then life roles in and you get complacent. There is always something else that needs taken care of.
Today - today I would like to think was a good day. Maybe it was a mistake? It felt good. H and I had already had plans today. After last night I was anxious on how it would go but it went so well.
He came home from work and we eventually ended up having sex which was wonderful. Perhaps the pros on this board would frown upon this but if I'm not having sex with H who is he going to have sex with?
We could have conversations about other stuff without it feeling forced. We made to the the boat, travel and deer expo. Sometimes he asks questions like "does it need to be a lake house or can any type of water like a pond do"? Now this is important because from the moment we got together we had always planned to have a lake house for retirement. This means at times I still pop into his head when he thinks of the future. Of course I responded I would love to be near any body of water but being on a lake gives him more options with a boat.
Other times when looking at the RV's and 5th wheels he simply says he won't get a home just a 5th wheel and when it gets cold in one area he will just relocate. He was speaking as if it would just be him in the future.
We looked at elk and bear hunt packages. We playfully bantered with the sales people. He is all over the place with his eye on a piece of property near his work and suddenly talking to sales rep about buying 20 acres just to hunt on and put a small hunting cabin on. He will randomly say he doesn't want to go fishing in Montana he wants to live there.
There were small things like "you want some fudge?". I'm like sure. Then he wants to know which one I want... and that's what he buys.
We ended up doing some wine tasting - all fabulous. I'm thinking we will get one bottle so we are trying to decide what we liked best. He turns to me and says you pick out what you want I'm going the restroom and will return. Of course I laugh and say hey, you've got the credit card!! He says I know.
I pick out 3 bottles of wine and my husband returns and says is that all I'm getting? Next thing we are tasting more wine and we end up with 3 more bottles. It was a BIG splurge. He turned to me and said that the next time he has to work all weekend that I am not to complain. He was suddenly spoiling me, but at some point we are going to be drinking A LOT of wine!
The entire day was so wonderful!!!
Tomorrow I have GAL's planned. I have told my husband I will be out. He asked some questions which I answered as best I could but I did let my husband know several times over that there are no men in this get together. I didn't want a repeat of "I'm going to the coffee shop" fiasco. He doesn't understand but didn't argue about it.
I realize come Monday H may revert back to being cold and distant again.
