WAW, is there hope?

[KGuy]

Mach1,

I guess I do feel somewhat defeated because i feel i've failed because on paper the M has ended in a final D and its projected when i talk/write about the house. I thought i had moved past that, but apparently not. You are correct that I need to change that thinking.

I guess you are also correct in that the house is a sort of emotional tie, but mainly because we had the kids there. Naturally, i project that on how they feel about the house as well. The thing is that kids need stability above all else and I thought the fact that i didn't turn that 'home' location upside down would be a good thing. For myself, the house is an unwanted reminder of what the M was working toward, but i try not to let that affect me for their best interest.

Your point is also taken that moving on with someone else, the house would induce conflicting thoughts between the two relationships.

My old house which i am fixing up and considering "retreating" financially to and selling the Marital home actually has more kids around that are around the 4 y/os age. It would be a new beginning for them.

Further on the new beginnings, it would definitely send a signal if i sold this house to get something new which i am also considering (through the company i've set up)...the new beginning stuff would definitely be me doing something differently. More of the working on myself. She didn't like that i was resistant to change (which i am) and after reflection she was right that i should be less resistant to change...thanks for the input!