While there is absolutely no way in h@ll I'd ever do something like this and can only wonder what most family members think... it is fascinating watching with some truth to it. When we say here that love is a choice rather than a feeling - that really is the case when you watch the show - at least with some of them. Look at Doug and Jamie from year one. She was repulsed by him, would not let him touch her - on and on. They just had another baby and I think are expecting again? She is now totally in love with him. Yeah, they are facing some rocks and bumps but it's a 180 from the start.
There have been others that make less sense. There is a couple in the current run where the guy would not even sleep in the same room with his new wife. He was like "I can't rush into these things and we are strangers and don't know anything about each other..." I'm thinking, DUDE... you signed up to do this - now that you are doing it you don't want anything to do with this lady?
It really does show, however, how it's not at all about the love at first sight feelings that some people want to feel - or the constant butterflies, etc. It's what you make of it. There is really a lot to be learned.
Season 3 may be the most fascinating - at least to me. There is one couple where the woman wanted nothing to do with the guy. Belittled him, made fun of him, questioned his man-hood. He kept trying but then finally hit his breaking point and said enough. It was then that she started to fall in love with him. By the time they got to the 6 week decision, she fully wanted to stay married. She was as all in as he was at the start - yet he said no, he wanted to get a D. She killed it for the two of them and she knew it at the end and was very, very sorry for it - FASCINATING and not at all unlike many stories here.
Season 3 also had what became one of the most despised guys. Again, the woman wanted nothing to do with the guy - would not even try. Again, I'm like, lady, what did you think this was going to be? I'm not sure that she ever kissed the guy, then used an opportunity to create an excuse to diss him (or so it seemed at the time). I'm not sure that they even stayed together for the 6 weeks. So they go onto D but then the producers bring the guy back for his own spin-off series where he picks the women - pretty much like a bachelor rip-off. This is where he showed himself to be a total wanna-bee player. He had several very good women interested in him yet he kept going for the totally wrong woman. If any woman treated him like crap, that's who he wanted. There was a total sweetheart that really seemed to like him - he felt nothing for her. The lady that totally blew him off and treated him terribly, that's who he wanted. In the end, he chose no one - and was flamed on social media. Still, he could not see what he kept doing wrong and kept doing the same wrong things and wondering why he always got nowhere or the same outcome. Again, it's not unlike people here who keep doing the same thing and expecting different results.
Great stuff - can you tell I like it? LOL Anyone who's looking to binge watch something this weekend - you'll love it! There are a total of 5 full seasons and #6 is currently airing.
