in my opinion, there is a good chance he is gaslighting... she is not perfect, of course--but neither is he... but the failure of the marriage seems to rest solely on her... something is amiss here... and because he had PAs and EAs in his first marriage, i do not count it out that he just wants out of this marriage just because, like JujuB said, "he is not a committed person... he is looking for excuses."
i would like to know more about how he was toward her in the marriage... how much interest did he show in her and her passions? it's obvious he is not an adequate communicator... he didn't share his pain until he was ready to walk... i think, all-in-all, his needs are greater than her needs...
we shall see how this plays out...
Labeling it to me, seems to be focusing on the past..
This site is built on the premise of..
From this day forward..
So label it as you may...
I am still not seeing the INTENTIONAL act of trying to F with her...
To him ??
His needs ARE greater than hers...
Same as her needs - to her- are greater than his...
I truly think that the downfall of the marriage, was played equally as well by each person...
And while his words have been that he wants out, his actions haven't exactly been matching that....
