East, you are absolutely right. The LBS does have the power to end it as well.

My point was that, even the perfect DB'er can't save their M if the other spouse doesn't want it.

In the beginning of my sitch, I felt so defeated every time I screwed up. I wish I could go back to that poor suffering guy and tell him not to sweat the small stuff. All those things probably never made any difference in the end. The time I spent spinning over her words, expressions, and texts should have been spent on me instead.


Me-47,XW-43
S13,S16
M:18
BD:4-23-17
W filed:7-17-17
(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
D granted:2-15-18
Decree signed:3-29-18

Your future is out there. Go find it.