East, you are absolutely right. The LBS does have the power to end it as well.
My point was that, even the perfect DB'er can't save their M if the other spouse doesn't want it.
In the beginning of my sitch, I felt so defeated every time I screwed up. I wish I could go back to that poor suffering guy and tell him not to sweat the small stuff. All those things probably never made any difference in the end. The time I spent spinning over her words, expressions, and texts should have been spent on me instead.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18