I know it is very hard to let go especially in the beginning
It is,most helpful to be there now for your 14 year old listen to her alateen if needed
Whether your H is just in his addiction or MLC or both,,You are still most powerless I'm glad you have the support of alanon
He may believe the new R will fix him and he will be happy --but unfortunately that is usually not the way the story here ends
You can spend your time best by going to counseling alone and getting support thru alanon-working on you He will spiral down more and get even more crazy
By working the steps and making some new support friends try to have some fun
remember none of this is your fault,, an alcoholic is a ticking bomb ready to explode at any time You can take care of you and your D Make sure if she goes with him..he is sober and safe
hang in
It takes time but most of us land on our feet and usually better than b4
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
