J9, you've done an awesome job at DB'ing. I bow to you, sir! The fact that you couldn't save your M should be a sobering lesson for everyone.

What I'm about to say doesn't discount those here who've put in the hard work and saved their M's. But the LBS can really only have so much impact on the WAS. It's ultimately the WAS that decides if the M can be saved. The best DB'ing in the world will not change their heart once it's hardened.

DB'ing has a secondary purpose - to save the LBS, to make them stronger so they can survive the ordeal and come out with a sense of purpose. The secret of this place is, this is really the primary purpose.

On another note, my court appointment today has been postponed because there are issues with some of my documents. I really want this to be over.

Time for a new thread soon.


Me-47,XW-43
S13,S16
M:18
BD:4-23-17
W filed:7-17-17
(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
D granted:2-15-18
Decree signed:3-29-18

Your future is out there. Go find it.