As much as I tried to deny it, it has been fear of losing my family, losing my wife and losing the life that I had once known. I realize now that I have already lost most of those things and I need to start healing my wounds and building myself a new life.
Exactly. Cadet used to say something like "most LBS's are divorced at BD, they just don't know it yet." That doesn't mean that there's no hope for a future R with their WAS, but just that their marriage as they knew it ended at BD. Rarely do you go back to what you had.
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I explained that while I understand that this will be hard for both of us, it is something that is needed to be done. I also mentioned that once I am set up, I would want 50% custody of our S8 as my D18 is an adult in college and is old enough to make her own decisions as to who she will see in a schedule that works for her. My door for her is always open. She started crying but after the conversation was done I calmly walked away.
Great, you handled that perfectly! I know it's tough, but when you're stuck in a miserable situation at some point you have to do something differently. And you're doing that, so congrats!
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I must admit I am still a little scared but just at the uncertainty of my future at the moment. I also am beginning to find a little excitement in the unknown.
It's human nature to fear the unknown. But I'll share a line from my favorite show "Vikings", when Rollo meets the seer and says he feels like his life is over the Seer starts laughing and says "Oh Rollo, if you knew what the gods have planned for you, you would go down now and dance naked on the beach!"
