Truth is perception...

Truth really only means something to one person.

The person that believes it to be true...

From what I see, I think that he still loves you...

I don't think that he is IN love with you, and I don't think that he likes you very much...

Now, HIS version of how that failed, and YOUR version of how that failed will and should vary quite a bit...

From a male perspective here...

I think there is entirely too much chatter about this.

I think that there is too much talk about the "situation"...

Too much focus on what when wrong, and why, and where, and when...

Typically, guys do not operate that way.

He seems like the outdoor type, where the thrill of the hunt actually pales in comparison to the serenity of nature.

The chatter doesn't allow his brain to separate reality from fiction.

So is he "gas-lighting" ??

I don't think so.

It could be twisted around to appear that way.

However, the absence of intentional behavior is missing.

He isn't just making things up in his head.

This is TRULY HOW HE FEELS....

And until YOU can accept that his truth is important, you are going to spin in circles.

I would also recommend that you STOP apologizing for things for now..

Until you can clearly see things, it's only making things worse...

Slow down and please stop trying to fix this..

Stop trying to talk your way out of something that you acted your way into...


I'm not saying that he is right...

But as long as HE believes those things to be true, you aren't going to change his mind by talking....

Time and consistent actions of who you really are, and want to be, are the only things that will erase HIS truth ....



Sooooo...

The Deer head being a cause of the marriage failing ???

Not a chance...

The Deer head being another in a seemingly long line of your needs being greater than his needs ???

Another in a seemingly long line of his voice being erased ???

Another in a seeming long line of mis-communications ???

You tell me...