I couldn't get the words out. It just became so heated so quickly. And, I know my H. The minute he asked where I was going and I said the coffee shop... he said but you don't even like coffee. I knew he would say that.
I tried to validate him. Not sure he even heard me. So I went ahead and left. I waited an hour so I was calm and collected. I then texted him that statement. Not proud that I texted it to him and I prayed he would not respond. I was in no mood or position to travel down a road that always leads to R. I do not want to talk a out R with H anytime soon.
He did not respond and that was a relief.
I guess I'm clueless as I still don't know what you mean by how I talk to and about H.
I only mention the hunting/outdoors stuff as an example. If I talk about H at work 9 time out of 10 I'm bragging about him. I love that our interests are diversified. I never wanted to marry a version of me as that would be quite boring. I always thought his outgoingness complemented my quiet reserve but I'm sure I never told him that in those words.
I did make the mistake of not recognizing how important a hunting trophy was and to him it came across as I was rejecting that part of him. I had already apologized but the damage was done. I hoped every time he went out this season be would vet that trophy buck but it didn't happen this year.
Have I ever bwitched and demeaned my husband for something stupid and trivial. Yes. I am not proud and when I apologized for that I gave specific instances where I crossed the line. I actually had this talk before he BD me.
Overall I have been very accomadating to my husband in last 4 months. In general I try to show pleasantness. I stop what I'm doing and listen to him. If he asks questions I answer and I am not vague or elusive... he has complained of that in the past. I try not to ask very many questions of him and when he is elusive in response I do my best not to let it trigger me.
