Uhm... no I don't think "here he goes again rambling". I listen but I'm clearly clueless.
He did ask me once about joining him on his boat but I thought he just really wanted alone time. I have never been on the boat.
He has taken some interest in things that I do but that has waned over the years. He asked me to make a specific blanket for him which I did and he loves. Uses it daily!!! I once made a scarf for him and he used to wear that all the time but I haven't seen it out in a few years. I get busy at the end of the year because I will knit items to sell. Mostly he is burned out over knitting because he thinks I chose that over holding his hand.
Its so odd because the one thing I wanted - calmness with the kids at home. He would constantly be on someone's case - his kids, my kids but fine with me... NOW he is great with EVERYONE BUT ME... :-( He has improved his relationship with son tremendously. He is even more calm in dealing with EW. Its a breath of fresh air... but now I'm the enemy?
There has been ALOT of drama over the years with EW and his kids. I'm sure like every parent out there if I had to do things over again I would probably make some different choices in a lot of things.
He spent the last 2yr telling me his kids hated me. That gutted me. I'm sure they may not have been 100% happy here - divorce [censored] and there was a lot of animosity between H and EW. SS18 is now nearly out of the house and isn't here as much but I did start the work to repair our relationship several months earlier. I texted him regularly. I took the initiative to invite him to dinner with us at our home and made sure he wasn't avoiding our home because of anything I had done personally - he said no. When he came to dinner my husband stayed in the bedroom. I sat with SS18 and had small talk and general talk until diner was ready. I have since been talking to him and planned another family day of fun with go-karts and he is completely on board to come and spend the day with us. I've made sure my H knew of my intentions and got his okay before making contact with SS18.
I've improved my relationship with SD16. We have been having "girl time" for several months now.
I know his kids don't hate me. I know this. When I let H know that this week he would say... well that's what they told me... and then he backed down to... well they haven't said that for awhile.
I'm all over the map...
Yes - Meg and I have almost identical issues at this point in time. I see it so clearly - that's me when I read her posts.
