i think the point Deckard was making about the rambling about guns is that you used the word rambling... i don't take issue with the word, but perhaps there is some truth behind it in that as your H "rambles" or talks about guns, you convey--even unwillingly--an attitude of "this again?" or "please get passed the rambling about the guns already." something like that...
if your H wanted you to join him while he was hunting, he should have invited you... you shouldn't have to now guess whether or not your missed some hidden desire of his... i could see that he felt you were not supportive of his hunting because of how you reacted to the deer head trophy and the butchering of his own meat--but not because you didn't volunteer to join him...
so, are you the one who likes to knit? i find myself confusing you with Meg, who is in a similar situation as you... if yes--may i ask how interested your H has been in your knitting? has he been one to ask you about it, talk about it with you? what about other interests of yours... how interested has he been in your interests throughout the years? i am sorry but, some of your shortcomings, in the way you describe them, seem petty... to me it seems your H is making your shortcomings out to be much more than they are... i don't know that for sure, but that's what i see... in my opinion, you did NOT do enough damage to the marriage that your H just can't stay in it without working through it... you are not abusive... you are not battling addiction... you have not been unfaithful... i will say it again, i think he is gaslighting you, and you are buying it...
