As LBS we have to perform with actions and not talk. Next time, don't make threats just perform actions. You didn't have to go down the road of telling her to give back to key. You could of just informed her that you wanted the key back and when she said no. Your next comment should be "ok", that's it. Nothing else, no more words. The next step is just actions. You go and change the locks. Actions speaks louder than words.
The way you worded the interaction here, it seems like you did come off like an a-hole. You told her she needs help, why did you tell her that? Telling her that sounds like you are trying to punish her and you are above her. She don't want the person who has caused her all this pain, telling her she needs help. Become the light house she needs. Pls read, "love must be tough". She drew you into a conversation that shows her you are still attached and angry.
She has to want to get help on hew own, you telling her that won't get her to get help, but you providing tough love will help to start that journey. Keep your road home paved smooth.
Let go of the anger. It will be hard, but you have to practice detaching lovingly.
Next time don't tell her, her things will be boxed up show her. Who wouldn't get worked up when a person is making demands and threats. I know exactly how you feel. I also went through a a-hole moment while detaching, I looked very weak and took away from my own healing.
Hardwork ahead
Onward and forward
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
